Humility - Remembering the Humanness in All Of Us.

  • Category: VIRTUES
  • Sub Category: Virtues
  • Published Date: Oct. 3, 2022, 4:32 p.m.

When you have humility, you are humble. That means you don’t think you are more special or important than others.

 

On the other hand, being humble or having humility does not mean that you are less important than other people. It is the opposite of feeling humiliated – when we lose respect for ourselves or feel ashamed.

 

Some people may think that being humble (having humility) is a weakness, but it is actually a strength. You see, by being humble, you own your strengths and abilities while still being aware of things that you aren’t so good at. The key is that although you are aware of your shortcomings, you still think highly of yourself. That is, you still like and accept yourself as you are.

 

The secret to humility is that you realize that you are worthy just because you are human. You don’t need the best things or to achieve outstanding accomplishments (boast or brag about them) to feel more worthy and acceptable.

 

People who have humility do not look for praise or attention. Instead, they allow other people to be in the spotlight. They are confident and secure in who they are and instead let their actions speak for themselves.

 

When you practice humility, you can develop other good characteristics like positive self-view and good self-esteem. At the same time, you understand that no one is perfect, and you have room to grow and improve as a human. That means you are open-minded, listen to different ideas, and consider others’ advice. You don’t get defensive or upset when someone gives you constructive criticism. Instead, you listen to what is being said and work on improving if the criticism is valid.

 

Humble people generally are healthier (both physically and mentally), forgive others easier, and practice gratitude more often. They are more agreeable (pleasant, friendly to be around) and eager to help others.

 

Humility is linked to other positive traits (qualities) like confidence, kindness, and generosity. When you are humble, you tend to be more thoughtful and sincere towards others, even those you don’t know.

 

Other people will be drawn to you when you show humility. That is because they feel safe with you. They know that you won’t become defensive or argumentative for no reason. More importantly, they know that you won’t judge them and will treat them with compassion and understanding.

 

Humility gives you a sense of freedom. Sometimes, as humans, we work extra hard to be liked. We try only to show our best sides and do anything to hide our unattractive traits and behaviors. In short, we pretend to be something or someone we are not. That takes a lot of energy. With humility, you accept everything about yourself. When you do this, you don’t need to pretend. There is no room for feeling ashamed or less worthy than anyone else because you are simply Youman .

 

Not pretending or not being pretentious gives you a sense of freedom. It gives you space to breathe and just be. When you are humble, you allow others just to be themselves too. Perhaps without knowing it, you will create a safe space where they can also be free and breathe without feeling like they need always to be perfect.

 

Humility is often-overlooked virtue. People sometimes think you will allow others to walk all over you when you are humble. But humility does not mean you don’t look out for yourself. It means that you don’t only look out for yourself. You don’t have to fight or be aggressive to get what you need. Instead, you allow others to have or get what they need without feeling as though you are missing out or that they are somehow taking something away from you.

 

With humility, you can be assertive instead of aggressive. That means you can stand up for yourself and express your view without necessarily creating conflict with those around you.

 

Humility, like many virtuous traits, can be fleeting. That means that they don’t stay constant unless you practice them. For example, someone who generally practices and displays humility may become less humble if given an important role. It could be true when they start to think that now they are in a more valuable role, they are more important than others.

 

They may recognize that other people look up to them and turn to them for help or to solve their problems. And they would be right. The difference between someone who has humility and doesn’t is that they don’t believe they are always right or have all the answers. People with humility say: ‘I don’t know, I will find out.’ They also value the people around them and ask for assistance when needed.

 

How to practice more humility?

There are a few things that you can do to help us become humbler.

 

You can start paying attention when someone speaks. This is sometimes called active listening. You see, often, when we are in a conversation, we spend more time and mental energy (brainpower) on thinking about what we will say next than on paying attention to what the other person is saying.

 

What does this have to do with being humble? When you focus your attention on someone while they are talking, you are putting them first. You are not only interested in yourself and what you have to say. By actively listening, you start cultivating a broader understanding and perhaps even a deeper curiosity for the world and people around you.

 

Having an intense (strong) curiosity reminds you that there is so much more to learn that you don’t know everything. That is a powerful way to keep us humble.

 

Sometimes, we tend to be less humble around people we are overly familiar with, like family or close friends. Since humility is a skill that we can grow (or lose), these settings and relationships are perfect for practicing being humbler. Because you tend to spend a lot of time with these individuals, these relationships can also provide fantastic opportunities to recognize when you haven’t been as humble as you could be.

 

If you want to practice being humbler actively, spend some time thinking about how you interact with the people closest to you. Think about specific situations or interactions where you were humble or could have been humbler. Next, you can reflect on ways you can be humbler in your relationships with those close to you. Once you start practicing humility with your friends and family, it will naturally begin to radiate out.

 

Remember that, as with many things in life, there needs to be a balance when you practice humility. While being humble is a good thing, there is such a thing as being too humble. Sometimes you will need to put your own needs before someone else’s. Sometimes you will have to speak up for yourself or set a boundary with someone taking too much. There may be situations when you have to tell someone about something great that you did. For example, if your friend has hurt themselves, you can say to them that you have completed a First Aid course. This is not boasting; instead, it will make your friend more comfortable if they know you can help them.

 

You may not use your skills or share your knowledge if you are too humble. You may not bring value to those around you because you keep putting them and their opinions, skills, knowledge, and needs first.

 

Take it easy with yourself. Remembering that you are human even when you make mistakes (like failing to be humble in some situations) will help you become humbler. Being humble means accepting your successes and failures; through it all, you remember that you are worthy and human, just like everyone else.

 

Sometimes it takes practice to become humbler. How about trying to practice with Megadolls? You can try out different scenarios and imagine how you can show more humility in various situations. In Megadolls, humility is represented by the color black. Dress one of your Megadolls in black to remind yourself to practice more humility daily.

With Megadolls, may we all inspire, encourage kindness, experience creativity, and promote meaningful play with awareness and compassion for others.

 

References:

How To Be More Humble? 20+ Tips and Books To Foster Humility (positivepsychology.com)

7 Things You Could Do to be More Humble (lifehacks.io)

Humility Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster

HUMILITY | meaning in the Cambridge English Dictionary

How Humility Will Make You the Greatest Person Ever (berkeley.edu)

Humility | SkillsYouNeed

13 Habits Of Humble People (forbes.com)

HUMILIATE | meaning in the Cambridge English Dictionary

 

 

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